The Romance of the Prophet Muhammad as a Model of Sakīnah Family: A Thematic Study of Hadiths on Household Life
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https://doi.org/10.12928/taqaddumi.v5i1.14026Keywords:
Romance, Sakīnah Family, Thematic Hadith, Emotional Education, Islamic HouseholdsAbstract
The family institution holds a vital position in shaping emotional stability and spiritual maturity in Islam. Amid the rising divorce rates and weakening household harmony in modern society, this study seeks to revitalize the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad saw as a model for building sakīnah (tranquil), mawaddah (loving), and raḥmah (compassionate) families. This article aims to explore the romantic aspects of the Prophet’s domestic life, analyze the authenticity of related hadiths, and extract values relevant to Muslim family life today. Using a qualitative thematic approach (maudhū’ī), the researcher conducted takhrīj and analysis of 128 authentic hadiths from the Kutub al-Tis’ah collections. The hadiths are classified into five romantic themes: sleeping under the same blanket, sharing food and drink, resting on the wife’s lap, bathing together, and assisting in household chores. Sanad and matan criticism affirmed the hadiths' validity, ensuring their credibility as references. The study found that the Prophet’s romantic behaviors were not merely affectionate gestures but strategic means to nurture emotional well-being, prevent conflicts, and foster marital resilience. These values counter the individualistic culture of modern times and reaffirm Islam's emphasis on affection as an act of worship. The study concludes that revitalizing the Prophet’s romantic Sunnah offers a practical and spiritual foundation for strengthening modern Muslim families.
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